Who this is for
You belong here if…
You suspect your past is shaping your present in ways you haven't fully seen yet.
You're curious about your own story and want to take steps to explore it in more depth.
You want to find a community of like-minded people so that you are doing this work with others rather than alone.
You want to feel connected—to yourself, to others, to something larger than your wounds.
In many cultures, the village is the place where big emotions are held by the community so that you can experience and express them.
You do not carry your wound alone.
The elders witness. Elders are people who have suffered their suffering and know how to use their power on behalf of the wounded in the community.
You come back to yourself in the company of others who know how.
Why Do This
Information alone doesn't heal us.
What heals is exploring your actual story—and doing it alongside others.
The unexamined story doesn't go away. It gets buried in your body—and keeps running your life from there.
Another year with the same struggle is too high a price.
What You Get
Everything is designed to take you somewhere, not just teach you something
Live Sessions With Adam Twice a Month
Zoom gatherings where Adam provides direction on next steps and answers your questions. Every two weeks, so that you can keep moving forward.
25 Teaching Videos
The best of Adam's teaching on story, neuroscience, attachment, how healing happens, all of it.Â
12 Self-directed Exercises
Guided practices to help you apply the teaching to your particular life and story. This is how things start to shift.
Connection With Others
A primary purpose of The Village is to connect you with like-minded others in your geographic region.
How it works
Getting started is simple
1
Join The Village
Sign up for $27/month and get immediate access to everything.
2
Grow at Your Own Pace
Attend the live sessions every two weeks, watch the 25 teaching videos, work through the 12 exercises.
3
Experience Healing
As your story becomes clearer, your brain heals. Feel some release, some vitality, some wholeness.
What becomes possible
Life can feel different.
You understand why you do what you do.
You feel the weight begin to lift—not all at once, but steadily, as your story becomes clearer.
You show up more fully for the people you love.
For years I have sat with people in my counseling office and watched them try to figure out their own stories.
The Village is what I needed when I was starting my own work. It's what I still need today.
A place where I can go deeper with others who are doing the same.
The Curriculum
Inside Every Lesson
A closer look at what each teaching covers and what you can expect to walk away with.
1
What's Actually Happening Inside: Introduction to the Neurobiology of Your Brain
What You'll Learn
How your brain is wired for survival, connection, and meaning—and why understanding its basic architecture changes how you see yourself and your reactions.
2
Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Shut Down: Understanding Your Nervous System's Reactions
What You'll Learn
Why your nervous system responds the way it does under stress or threat—and how to recognize these survival responses playing out in your everyday life.
3
You're Not Broken, You're Dysregulated: Understanding Affect Regulation
What You'll Learn
What it means to regulate your emotional experience, why some of us never learned how, and practical ways to begin developing this essential capacity.
4
Truth Alone Does Not Change Us: How Kindness Changes the Brain
What You'll Learn
The neuroscience behind self-compassion—and why treating yourself with kindness isn't indulgent but one of the most powerful agents of genuine change.
5
You Have Many Parts (And They're All Good): Introduction to Internal Family Systems
What You'll Learn
An introduction to the idea that we are made up of many inner parts—and how curiosity toward those parts, rather than war against them, opens the door to healing.
6
What Your Anxiety Is Trying To Tell You (and How to Respond To It)
What You'll Learn
A new way of understanding anxiety—not as a problem to eliminate, but as a signal with something important to say—and how to listen to it without being overwhelmed.
7
Sadness Will Not Sink You: The Healing Power of Grief
What You'll Learn
Why grief is not a sign of weakness but a necessary passage—and how allowing yourself to mourn what has been lost is one of the most courageous things you can do.
8
The Way Up Is Down: How Healing Happens
What You'll Learn
The actual process of healing—what it looks like, why it's rarely linear, and what conditions need to be in place for real, lasting change to take root.
9
"Notice That" - How To Listen To The Brilliant Wisdom Of Your Body
What You'll Learn
How your body holds your story—and how developing the ability to pay attention to physical sensations gives you access to wisdom your mind alone cannot reach.
10
Keys to Listening to Your Body: Affect Dysregulation and Bodily Impulses
What You'll Learn
The specific skills and practices for tuning into your body's signals—including how to work with emotional flooding and the impulses that arise in your body.
11
The Setup: How Developmental Trauma Makes You Vulnerable to Spiritual Abuse
What You'll Learn
The relational conditions that make people vulnerable to spiritual abuse—and how understanding the setup helps make sense of what happened to you.
12
Healing From Spiritual Abuse: Restoring Trust in Your Knower
What You'll Learn
How abuse and trauma erode our ability to trust our own perceptions—and how to begin reclaiming confidence in your own inner knowing.
13
Neither of You Is Crazy: The Attachment Wounds Behind Every Marital Fight
What You'll Learn
How your early attachment experiences shape the way you move toward or away from intimacy—and what it looks like to bring more awareness to the dance you do with your partner.
14
The Goal Is Not To Do It Right: The Goal Is Repair
What You'll Learn
Why the impulses you've judged most harshly in yourself are often survival strategies in disguise—and how meeting them with understanding changes everything.
15
Delight Is the North Star: What Neuroscience Tells Us About What Children Really Need
What You'll Learn
What children are most deeply wired to need—and how the presence or absence of delight in early life shapes the adult we become.
16
Help, I Realize I'm Hurting My Kids
What You'll Learn
What to do with the painful recognition that your own unhealed wounds may be affecting your children—and how to hold that without collapsing under shame.
17
It's Not Too Late: How to Repair Harm with Your Children
What You'll Learn
The research on repair—why returning to ruptures with honesty and care is one of the most healing things a parent can do, and how to actually do it.
18
The Trauma Before the Trauma: How Our Family of Origin Sets Us Up for Sexual Abuse
What You'll Learn
The "Big Six" things every child needs from their parents—and how the lack of these six things sets you up for sexual abuse.
19
What Felt Like Love Wasn't: Triangulation and Covert Sexual Abuse
What You'll Learn
What triangulation is, why it's so important to name it in your family of origin, and how to heal from the bondage it creates.
20
"I Wanted It": Dismantling the Accusation of Complicity in Sexual Abuse
What You'll Learn
Why survivors often blame themselves for their own abuse—and how to dismantle the lies that have kept you carrying a weight that was never yours to bear.
21
How Can God Meet You Face to Face Till You Have a Face? Exploring Your Story With God
What You'll Learn
An invitation to bring your story—including the painful parts—into your relationship with God, and what it might mean to let God meet you in the messiness of that.
22
The Healing Power Of Writing Your Own Psalm
What You'll Learn
How the ancient practice of lament—the honest and raw expression of unedited feelings—can become a vehicle for your own healing, and how to write your way into it.
23
You Relate to God the Way You Learned to Relate to Your Parents: Attachment and God
What You'll Learn
How the relational patterns formed in childhood shape the way you experience and relate to God—and how healing in one arena opens doors in the other.
24
How To Love Someone Who Has Harmed You
What You'll Learn
What it actually means to love someone who has hurt you—a nuanced look at forgiveness, limits, and what love does and does not require of you.
25
When They Won't See It: Engaging with Someone Who Has Harmed You
What You'll Learn
How to navigate ongoing relationships with people who refuse to acknowledge the harm they've caused—and what faithful, grounded engagement can look like.
What people say
Words from the community
Adam explains complex subjects in a way that makes them understandable and simple.Â
Adam's teaching has been the most helpful resource in my life to date.Â
The kindness in your voice has allowed me to stay engaged longer and take one more step forward.Â
It is not an exaggeration to say that your teaching has changed my life.Â
I have gained more understanding, more clarity, and more answers than I have in years.Â
A Community for Healing
Simple, accessible, real.
The Village
$27
per month
Live sessions with Adam every two weeks
Teaching videos that make complex topics understandable
Self-directed exercises to help you apply the material to your particular story
Community space to connect with like-minded others
A few things people ask
When are the Live Sessions and are they recorded?
Live Zoom gatherings take place every other Monday at:
4-5 PM PT | 5–6 PM MT | 6–7 PM CT | 7–8 PM ET
Live Sessions will be recorded, so if you can’t join us live, you can watch the replay at a time that works for you.
Do I need to be in therapy to benefit from this?
No. The Village can be a complement to therapy for those who have a therapist, but this is deeply valuable by itself.
How much time does it take?
As much or as little as you want. One hour per week is a good start. The videos are meant to be watched at your own pace. There's no schedule to keep, no pressure to be "caught up." This is your journey.
What if I join and it's not what I expected?
You can cancel anytime with one click. No fine print, no guilt. We want you here because it's genuinely useful—not because you're locked in.
How is this different from Adam's podcast?
The podcast opens a door. The Village is a "next step" that might be helpful for you. You'll go deeper here—into your own story, your own body—with content designed for that purpose.
